Perfectionism is often praised in our culture. It can look like being disciplined, high-achieving, or deeply committed to doing things “the right way.” But beneath the surface, perfectionism is rarely about excellence; it’s about safety.

For many people, perfectionism develops as a way to cope with stress, criticism, unpredictability, or emotional pain. Although it may offer short-term relief or a sense of control, over time it can take a significant toll on both mental and physical health.

Most of us can relate to being concerned about our health from time to time. The problem arises when this worry about health becomes chronic and interferes with life. Health anxiety, sometimes called illness anxiety disorder, occurs when concerns about one’s health become overwhelming, persistent, and distressing. For those living with health anxiety, everyday bodily sensations can feel like alarming signs of serious illness, creating a cycle of fear, worry, and compulsive behaviors.

As a recovering perfectionist, this topic is near and dear to my heart. I see many clients, especially high-achieving established men and women struggle with perfectionism. They cling to it with the misunderstanding that it keeps them safe, when actually it keeps them stuck. Perfectionism is a complex and often misunderstood trait that can significantly impact our lives. While striving for excellence is commendable, the relentless pursuit of perfection can lead to a cycle of stress, anxiety, and disappointment.

Summer is almost here, and that means summer travel! Embarking on a journey is often depicted as an exhilarating adventure filled with excitement and discovery. Yet, for many, the mere thought of traveling can trigger a whirlwind of anxiety. From the anticipation of the unknown to the fear of unexpected mishaps, travel anxiety can cast a shadow over what should be a thrilling experience.

Many of my clients have been experiencing or fearing the experience of panic attacks. To treat panic attacks, we need a two-pronged approach. Because overall anxiety increases the likelihood of panic attacks, the first prong involves reducing anxiety. The second prong involves knowing how to manage panic during an attack.